My mum is French, my dad is Spanish/Japanese.
His dad was Spanish/Japanese, while his mother was full Japanese.
My aunt, Hiromi, is full Japanese.
I’m just… Some people…? I feel like I’m sort of overreacting at this conversation, but at the same time, I’m really upset… Because I look White, that automatically means that the Japanese part of me might as well not exist? It’s okay if it’s there, but God forbid I say that on a form?
How is “well you look mostly White” a good reason to imply I should just go ahead and say I’m only White? Why am I not allowed to say what I am, if it’s not White?
I know I’m extremely lucky I’ll never have to face problems that non-White passing mixed race people will have to face, but it really can wear you down by the amount of people who will tell you, and try to police you, on what you are.
I don’t mean to ramble, I’ve just been applying for jobs, and with my parents watching over me to make sure I check everything as White, her comment really got to me, especially after saying a relative of mine should check “Asian”, despite her being the exact same mix as me.
If you don’t look White, you’re forced in to the culture (stereo types) you resemble, and if you look White, you’re forced out of them. You can’t win.